A recent post of mine, A Pineapple’s Value is all about knowing your worth.
(Encourage you to read if you have not)
The topic of knowing your worth is an extremely important one that no matter who you are it’s relevant. Around the same time of that post, Cara Alwill Leyba had a podcast all about knowing your worth. (Episode 52, you have to go listen!)
In the podcast Cara lists “10 Things Women Who Value Themselves Do Differently.” They all really spoke to me, but one in particular I couldn’t stop focusing on.
“Number 9: They don’t put their happiness in the hands of someone else.”
How many women have you met in your life where their happiness was dependent on a guy? It’s sad, but for me, the answer is quite a few. I myself have also fallen victim to this. It’s a new guy…he is exciting; he is giving you attention…you are so happy! Then, it stops and so does your happiness.
Why do we do that?
The same can be said for friends in our life. We want to be liked by everyone and sometimes we come across people that don’t like us. Because of that one person or few people that do not, we become obsessed over it and allow them to control our happiness.
When we allow people in our lives to come in and control or impact our happiness, we are sitting down and taking off our crown.
We forget our value.
I am a big believer that I am at a point in my life where my energy and time shouldn’t go to others who aren’t giving me their energy or time.
For instance, this blog is something I enjoy writing. I enjoy thinking about, talking about and trying to live a life like a pineapple. There are people in my life that don’t read it, understand it or make fun of it.
That’s okay. You aren’t my target.
Regardless, I’m not going to sit around and waste energy on trying to change their mind. Instead I put my energy into the blog because I value it, I value myself and my happiness doesn’t derive from their opinions, it derives from my topics and those people that I can impact.
Reflecting on your life, what’s impacting your happiness? Who/what are you putting energy towards. Do they value you?